The “Successful Hard Things” Reviewed-Part 2

By Ken Willis on Wednesday, January 27, 2016
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Successful People Can BalancePart 2 of reviewing an article from Inc. magazine website (5 really hard things that successful people do) that was reposted on the web blog ‘Evil HR Lady’.

I am reviewing the second hardest thing successful people do from an article I read.  Please feel free to read her site at the link below or the original article.  ‘My Take’ will be below the article.

5 Really Hard Things That Successful People Do

by Evil HR Lady on January 21, 2016

  1. Get your 10,000 hours in.

Even though Malcolm Gladwell’s famous 10,000-hour rule for becoming an expert isn’t necessarily true, it is true that most of us can’t just walk in and audition for the local symphony. You need to practice, practice, practice and learn, learn, learn. People ask how I got this gig at Inc. Well, I learned and wrote and learned some more and wrote, and wrote and wrote. You need to too if you want to be successful in your field.

Original Inc. Magazine Article

by Inc.com

 My Take on the Dream Job

Getting your hours in struck me as a very linear way to look at your professional life.  This also echoes my last Post, but I’ll get into that later. If you are going really reap the benefits both personally and professional for focusing your attention, you should like what you are doing.  There allot of people that do not like their 6 figure jobs or passing up that big promotion or advancement.  There is a sacrifice that every successful person has had to make to attain that next step up the ladder.  Imagine climbing a ladder with a platter in both hands.  On one platter is your responsibilities in your work life and on the other is your personal responsibilities.  As you climb the ladder, it feels like all your worried about is balancing the platters.  Then at some point along the climb you realize your altitude and then a whole other set of variables come into play, but I digress.

In the beginning

Balancing those responsibilities seams easy in the beginning.  Either you are young and time is of little consequence or you are not married, have no kids, no significant other, relatively few decision to make about your daily life.  Then choices enter into the fray.  I do not see the 10,000 hours as strictly a successful persons hard thing that they do.  First thing you need to do is define successful person in YOUR mind.  Find that first.  Is it at the top of the corporate ladder, entrepreneurial, family, health, helping, volunteering, or whatever.  While your figuring it out, the platters are easy to balance.

Decisions, Decisions

Then a major decision happens.  You have that special someone that you are planning to spend the rest of your life with AND your job wants to promote and move AND your significant other has family they would have to sacrifice. People have this choice everyday and make a difference choice.  I made the “stay with my significant other” choice.  Neither choice is bad or good.  It depends on you.  My example is too highlight that the platters are changing.  The choice you make will tip the platters allot or keep them relatively balanced based on your picture of success.

Altitude, Altitude

So, your cruising along making decisions, either keeping the platter balanced or not, then all the sudden the decisions take on a third dimension.  Lets complicate things, lets add a decision that involves a time variable.  Getting married or best yet, having kids, if that’s too intense, add a pet.  This decision adds altitude to your ladder.  You have more to lose and possibly suffer significant personal and/or professional damage.  Again your vision of success is the most important thing to this decision making.  This decision is also made every day.  People decide to have kids now or wait.  Kids may not be part of the equation.  Pets or no pets, that is the decision.  Marriage? Maybe not.  No choice is the wrong choice, just how you perceive it.  Your perception of a successful person will subliminally add to your personality, actions, and ultimately the next decision.  I eventually married my significant other, we waited to have kids, and travelled all over and grew up and enjoyed our friends still till this day.  We did have kids, but when it fit our picture of success at that time (foreshadowing?).  We also had to pay a price but it was the right price and our platters are more balanced because of it (married over 20 years).

The Grand Scheme

Back to my last post Dream Job, Finding that thing you can do and time seams to slip by was the focus of that post; but, that philosophy spills into your personal life as well.  Find what you love outside of work and parallel your life to that interest.  If you allow yourself to gravitate to the things your are really truly interested in, you cant help but be successful in YOUR version.  Your professional life will gravitate to what you enjoy doing and your personal life will gravitate to your interests.  Pretty soon the lines are blurred but you will never know because you are having a blast doing it.  The challenges are great but I believe time is just the stick we measure linear items with, so 10,0000 hours is less important.  What’s important is that we see our glass of life as full of things we truly love whether your just beginning, halfway or three quarters of the way home.